Tuesday, March 24, 2015

Life Has a Funny Way

So. 
I need to vent, so this is a zero-pic post. 
This weekend, I went to Helsinki with a bunch of girls. I came home Sunday night, and everything was fine. Husband picked me up in the middle of the night, and had even made a very late dinner for me. 
The next day, I woke up at around 3pm, ventured downstairs still half asleep, and found him on a sour mood. He went to the shops for groceries, and after he came home, he said We Need To Talk.

Don't we all just love the conversations that begin like that... We need to talk, and as it turns out, there's nothing for you to say really. 

We got married in June, 2007. Today, March 23rd, 2015, he said he's had it. 
We're getting divorced. 

I should be devastated writing this, but I'm not. I'm a bit angry, a bit sad, and quite worried about the future, but not a weeping mess. 
Drunk, yes, but not a mess. 
Gemini are funny that way. When something goes horridly wrong, we flip for two hours, and then say, oh well, could be worse. It could be raining. 

It is raining, by the way. The skies are weeping for me as it seems. 

Or maybe for him. I think he has it worse than I do. 

Anyway. Vent. 

I don't think I ever expected this to last forever. We met when we were both broken up about previous relationships, got married pretty hastily, and have always been a bit distant to each other. We've shared our lives, but not innermost secrets. 
Funny. 

We started out as friends, and we're going to remain friends. There was no drama, other than the two hours of him being scared about having to tell me this, and me being upset about what he told me. There is no hatred, no betrayed trust, no nothing. Just love that somehow went away, and somehow still remains. 

In my opinion, break-ups should go like this. No real hurt, no real pain, no shattering of lives. Just change, a slow alteration. 

I'm going to remain here until I get everything sorted out. This means I'm going to have to find more work, and to make my small business turn real profit. For this, I may require a bit of help. Spread the word if you can, and please leave tips on where to advertise my patterns and ready-to-wear garments. 

It's going to be a rough year. 

After my last break-up, I lingered on the brink of death for six months. I'd lost the only friend I had, and my whole life had broken to a million pieces. 
This time, I have a strong safety net. I'll be fine. 
Just need a bit of love right now. 

Heather

19 comments:

  1. Oh honey ... Sigh. I'm sending you lots of love and many hugs. Let me know how I can help spread the word ... Perhaps a blogger interview showcasing your creations. Let me know.

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    1. Thanks, hugs are greatly appreciated right now.

      An interview sounds really cool, and would be a nice way to gain a bit more visibility :)

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    2. When things settle down for you, let's talk more about this. Take care of yourself. Sending lots of love.

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  2. I am very sorry to hear that you are going through this. Take care of yourself.

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    1. Thank you, I will. I'm making notes to drink enough water and eat and sleep.

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  3. I am glad that you and he are taking it well and I hope you continue to be good friends!

    Good luck with making your business to pay, you should probably try and dangle pretty creations in my size in front of my nose or something, ha ha.

    Sending lots of love!

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    1. We will remain friends, at least if nothing goes wrong. Thanks for the love :)

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  4. sorry to hear / though well, yes an 'ok-ish'-end i guess... best of luck for your future! <3

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    1. Cheers, I'll try to make the best of it.

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  5. Well there's nothing really very comforting I can say, is there? I can't even begin to imagine how you must feel even though you say you're doing okay. I am sending much love although money would probably be more useful. ❤

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    1. Love actually means more now than money. I need to build up both my business and my self-esteem, and for that, support is the best thing I could get.

      Today's been a bit of a rough day, but like Scarlett likes to say, tomorrow is another day. I'll live. I'll be fine. I'll be scarred, but not broken.

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  6. Sorry to here about the end of your marriage. It's good you can agree mutually with each other to part your ways. I can understand how you feel as a similar situation happened to me a couple of years ago.My ex's ended things with me and said we no longer continue and by that time I was ready to leave as I couldn't face living in the situ any more. Adapting to life was extremly hard at first now I could never go back to that life as I'm finally happy. But we've remained on civil term with each other.

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  7. I'm so sorry to read this. Glad you are taking it relatively well, though. I really hope to see you making a real profit with your business.

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    1. Cheers, I'm still relatively well. No sudden collapses or anything.

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  8. So sorry to hear this. I know how difficult it can be. One day at a time.

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    1. Thanks. Some days are harder, but it could be a whole lot worse.

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  9. I know things have been hard and you haven't blogged in a while. I nominated you for a Leibster award, just so you know.

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